The full report
Your matches, turned into a plan you can have fun with.
Something you can run
The part that makes it a plan
Your shared list arrives as a working tool rather than a document. Everything you matched on is in there, and you can cut it down to whatever the two of you are up for, put things on a plan, and turn that plan into an actual evening.
See only what one of you would be leading on, or only the gentler things.
- Give each other a massageBoth ways
- Take a shower togetherBoth ways
Filter it down to the mood you are in
By topic, by how bold it is, by who does what, and by how ready it is: start tonight, plan for it, or talk first. What you are left with is the handful that actually fits this evening.
Keep a plan, not a list
Add anything you would genuinely like to do, and it moves onto a plan the two of you keep. Tick things off as you get to them. It saves itself as you go.
Build a date night out of it
Three parts in a running order, built only from things you put on your plan. Choose each part yourselves, or press Surprise us and let it pick, drawing only from the levels you said you were in the mood for.
Print either one
Your plan, or just the night, on its own sheet. Not the whole report, only the part you want in your hand.
All of it happens on your own device
The interactive version is a single file. Once it is in your hands it makes no request to us or to anyone else, so it works with the internet switched off, on a plane, anywhere. There is nothing to log into, your plan is held in your own browser, and nothing you tick, add, or plan is ever sent back. Our copy of both files deletes 30 days after your session begins, along with everything else. What is in your inbox is yours.
Boundaries
The conversation most couples never manage
Most couples never quite say where their limits are. Sometimes that is awkwardness. More often neither person has ever worked out where their own lines sit, let alone said them out loud. So the conversation does not happen at all, or it happens in the middle of a moment, which is the worst possible time to have it.
The report gives you the version of that conversation nobody has to start.
What you both closed off, always
Anything the two of you independently marked as a boundary is in the report. Neither of you is learning something the other did not already say, and agreeing where a line sits turns out to be its own kind of common ground. It is usually the easiest place to start talking.
The ones only one of you marked, but only if you both agree
Those stay private by default. They are shared only if you each separately choose to share, after your answers are locked, with your own list on the screen in front of you first. It is all of them or none, in both directions at once, and if either of you would rather not, nothing one-sided is shared and neither of you is ever told who decided what.
Read the rule in full on the privacy page.
Doors left open
The doors that are not closed
Some things land with one of you interested and the other choosing “rather not”. On this questionnaire that answer means something specific, and the answer screen says so plainly at the moment it is chosen: I would prefer not to, but I am open to talking about it.
So the report collects those in their own short section. It never says which of you was the keen one, because naming them would put quiet pressure on the other, and pressure is the opposite of an invitation. A firm boundary is never in here: a no stays a no.
This is not a list of where you fall short. It is a short list of things one of you would like, that the other has not closed the door on. Not a problem to solve, just a sign the two of you still have somewhere to go.
How you compare
Ordinary, or genuinely yours
1,882 couples, so far
Your matches are set next to what other couples have said, and it is useful in both directions. Things you assumed were unusual turn out to be what most couples quietly want. And a handful of yours turn out to be genuinely distinctive, which is a good thing to know about each other.
It is aggregate data only: counts of couples, never anyone’s answers, and never a single identifiable person or pair. A comparison only appears once its group holds at least 20 couples, so no couple can be picked out of it.
A public slice of the same data lives on the statistics page.
Two formats
One report, delivered twice
The same results, in the two shapes people actually want them: something to read, and something to use. You get both, and so does your partner.
A designed PDF
Laid out properly, in the same type and colors as the site you trusted with this. Made to be read end to end, printed if you want it on paper, and kept. This is the version you read together on the sofa.
An interactive version
One file that opens in any browser and does everything at the top of this page: filtering, the plan, the date night, the printing. No internet connection, no account, no app. Save it wherever you keep private things.
Both arrive by email, to each of you, as soon as the report is built, which usually takes under a minute. See a full sample built for a couple who do not exist, by the same code that builds a real one.
What is already free
You will see your matches either way
Free, the moment you both finish
- Everything you both said yes to.
- Everything you are both curious about.
- Anything you both independently marked as a boundary.
- Which way round things work, where there is a giving and a receiving side.
The question it leaves you with
Which one first? Which needs the house to yourselves? Which one is the conversation rather than the evening? Which of the near-misses is worth raising, and how?
That is the whole job of the report. You saw what you share. Now do something with it on Tuesday.
Plenty of couples read the free result, feel relieved, and stop there. That is a completely good outcome, and the free version is not a teaser: it is the entire discovery. The report is for the couples who want it to change what actually happens next week.
The price
$10 the first time, $5 after that
One payment, both formats, both of you. Every report carries a return code worth $5 repeat reports for 14 months, so you can take it again later and the next report shows you what changed.
You decide about it after you have both answered and seen your matches. Nothing is asked for before that, and the questionnaire is free whether or not you buy anything.
Start togetherNo account. Nicknames are fine. Everything, including your email, deletes 30 days after your session begins.
Not sure yet? Read how it works or the FAQs.